Monday, September 10, 2007
Love, friendship and boundaries
Recently everyone has been asking me about my perspective on whether there are boundaries between ' love and friendship' so i'm gonna answer the question once and for all...I think that every relationship has its boundaries. The reason being to ensure that no one goes overbored and crosses the line. Love and Friendship is something that i believe overlaps. U can love in a friendship and there SHOULD be friendship when it comes to love. Two people can be the best of friends and still Love each other without crossing the boundaries of a friendship. You might ask what boundaries are those. well, when the lines in your relationship have become blured I say you've pretty much crossed the boundaries. I'm not gonna go into the details of it cause I'll probably end up writting a book =)Joshie says i'm not living in reality every time i tell him this but I truly believe with all my heart that this kind of friendship is possible. i call it the "lucas and haylie" friendship. (go watch one tree hill) these two people are as close as ever. they love each other completely yet they never crossed the lines in their friendship.As for love, Like I said earlier there should be Friendship. I say this cause Friendship is one of the strongest if not the stongest bond of all relationships. With friends we try our very best not to offend each other we try and accomodate each other as well as be patient with one another. We behave more civilised arguing with our friends than when arguing with our siblings or significant other. We learn to respect each others privacy and not intefere where we're not wanted. All these are the most important fundamentals in any relationship and we learn it all from being friends. And so In love, if we can't be friends there's no point in it. Take the word Girlfriend or Boyfriends for example. Two people start out as friends and then their feelings for each other grow deeper and they become a couple. the title changes a little but the word friend still remains in it. These people started out knowing each other as friends and fell in love with the friend that the other person was. If one or the other took a 180 degree change the moment they became a couple the relationship would be pointless cause that person is no longer the person that he or she fell in love with. Because basically they fell in love with their friend. Yes, the level n the relationship may change but the friedship will always have to remain.So my answer is yes there are boundaries. as a couple u continue to respect each other as friends. You don not go crossing the lines as when you feel like it. And as firends U do not cross the boundaries of BEhaving like a Couple.Rosanne
Posted by ~**Beth**~ at 9:57 PM
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